Easy as pie! There is no shortage of couples looking for individuals to hook up with. It doesn’t even matter what gender you are.
(Although it does matter if you’re presentable. And if you’re a guy, make sure you’re not behaving in a creepy way.)
You can ask your friends, if you feel comfortable. You can float the idea, what do you think of threesomes in general?
You can find a bisexual group in your city or town. When you go, say you’re “solo poly.” Google polyamory groups.
You can make an online dating profile that says you’re looking for this. OK cupid is pretty good here or fet life if you’re looking for a fetish threesome. Your city might also have sex clubs or fetish nights, if fetish is your scene.
Also, your local sex shop (feminist sex shops are best for this) may have a variety of classes, like rope tying 101, or cunnilingus lessons and so on. If you go to these classes, you often meet people who are similarly inclined.
Dating phone apps are full of couples looking for a third. Tinder has a ton of them. Google how to have a tinder threesome.
If you’re brave, craigslist (not recommended if you’re a woman).
Sometimes the above is just not someone’s scene. There are a lot of hobbies that for some reason lend themselves to be open to threesomes. Here are some other places where it’s easy to find threesomes, if you are a nice and friendly person:
- Science fiction and fantasy conventions. Go to the panels and make friends.
- The society for creative anachronism. It is a community that does middle ages reenactments. For some reason, there are a lot of kinky folks and open relationships there.
Some things to keep in mind:
Couples have a pre-existing dynamic. Bringing in a third person can open up a lot of feelings. People have been known to cry, a lot. They can also get angry at you. Or cut off contact with you, if you had been friends.
Make sure that the woman in this couple isn’t being pressured or doing it to make her boyfriend happy. That just leads to bad feelings.
A guy can get really upset and threatened if he suddenly discovers his girlfriend is really into the third. If it’s a lot different than the fantasy of being the centre of attention, expect tears from him.
If it’s two girls, his girlfriend is really enjoying the girl, he can feel inadequate or upset because how can he compete? He may start to worry she’s “really gay.” Lesbian-phobia can come up.
Sometimes, a straight guy in a guy- guy- girl threesome or couple foursome has a sudden panic of homophobia. He can lose his erection. Have a lot of feelings. Need space. Worst case he gets angry and scary, this seems to be more common in “bros”.
Anyone in the situation can feel left out or used.
It’s really important to build open communication. Three people is a lot and it makes it harder to gauge everyone’s feelings. You need to have a deal at the start that all of you will stop as soon as anyone feels a bit uncomfortable. Make sure everyone can feel comfortable saying no. Have a alternative planned activity like a movie or board game so there is no hard feelings and you just easily transition. Like ok, no more oral, how about we watch the star wars prequels and complain about why they are shit or have a game of settlers of catan? or like, play Mario on the switch, or some activity that you prefer.
It’s sometimes easier to have a threesome with three people who are all not in a relationship, rather than a couple and a third. There are fewer preexisting issues. Also, if you bloom into a triad relationship, there isn’t a pre-existing power dynamic with the original seed couple.
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